If you want to design and live your own life, the first step is to be aware of the influence by others. The next step is to know what it is you’re passionate about and then, consciously, redesign your life. This process is actually quite simple.
What is a life coach? There are many definitions of what a life coach exactly does, but I believe the main goal is to make people more conscious and more authentic.
Welcome to the drama triangle between the persecutor, the helper and the victim. The drama triangle is a model of dysfunctional social interaction created by psychotherapist Stephen Karpman. Let’s have a closer look.
Life coaching is about making people more conscious. I cannot think of a job that is more rewarding than helping my clients become more authentic: assisting them to get in touch with their true feelings and unraveling all the false beliefs they have about themselves and others.
We think we make all decisions by ourselves, consciously, but is this really so? How many of those decisions are actually being made by our subconscious mind without us, consciously, knowing why we make them? It will surprise you how many decisions are made this way. My estimate is that this is more than 90 percent for the average individual.
We all experience the world around us differently. With our five senses (sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch) we process an enormous flow of information that is constantly reaching us; day and night. The only way our brain can handle this is to filter it. This is the reality we experience. Our experience is not the real reality but a filtered one. We are living in our own world.
Human beings have much deeper layers than what appears on the surface. On the surface we only play a role. Someone who is angry all the time may be hiding his insecurity on a deeper level. Someone who is funny may be hiding his sadness. We’re like an onion which can be peeled to unravel the core of our being. Every layer brings us to a deeper level and closer to our authentic self.