One of the biggest personal development steps you can take is to stop being a victim. Stop blaming others for all the bad things that are happening to you and the ones you love. By taking this step you regain responsibility, and control, over your life and will make a shift from reactive to proactive thinking and doing. This is the start of true conscious living: a major leap in your development.
Personal development can be a wonderful journey. There is much to learn, explore and to achieve: Personally, financially, spiritually and in the relationships with others. What if you think you cannot reach your goals? What if your personal development journey is taking up too much time, producing little or no results and giving you a headache? What if it’s becoming an obsession?
We are overwhelmed with information: People we meet, tasks we have to perform or possible dangerous situations. Our minds are constantly filtering this based on the way our parents raised us, the country we live in, our education, our friends and past experiences. In other words, we behave the way our minds are programmed: our conditioning.
One of my all time funniest lyrics is “Isn’t it ironic” by Alanis Morissette: “Life has a funny way of sneaking up on you”. Those lyrics remind me of the fact that nothing remains the same and life is all about change. You can either resist it of embrace it. Grieve over something lost or go with the flow and make the best of it. Or in the words of my favorite quote: “Get busy living, or get busy dying”.
In a previous post, two weeks ago, I promised to let you know how my little experiment towards The New York Attitude went, trying to see if there is another side to the New York City rudeness. I’m now back home, after a very good trip over Memorial Day weekend, and can share my experiences with you.
New York City is one of my favorite cities in the world. I have been there quite a few times now and every time I am amazed at the architecture, liveliness, cultural diversity and the speed at which people move around the city: 24 hours a day. Time seems to move faster here than anywhere else in the world.
Another thing that always amazes me is what they call the New York Attitude. Locals call it a mixture between tough, bravery and being overworked. They want to make it, to succeed in life, whatever it takes (even at the expense of others). To me it is being rude, very rude!
Our current day society is obsessed with negativity. We love to read, or watch TV, about someone else’s misfortune. Whether it is a celebrity’s marriage going down the drain or yet another war in the Middle East. Have you ever counted all this negativity in newspapers, the internet or on TV news? Let me ask it in another way: What about yourself? How many good things do you notice? Is your main focus on all the bad things happening around you? Or on the good ones, on the happiness in and around you?