I used to worry a lot about all sort of things. Especially in my early and mid twenties I had periods of extreme worrying, most of them related to work. When I look back at all those worries they now seem very insignificant, hardly worth the effort to think about them. Still they kept me awake for many nights.
When we see things only from our perspective we miss a lot of detail. We may only see 50 or 30 percent, maybe less, of what is going on. But most of us think and act like we know it for the full 100 percent. The truth is that we only know it for 50 percent and the rest of it we make up in our minds; we fill in the blanks with assumptions.
If there is a root of all evil, I believe it must be seeing others (or other groups) as inferior. Not being able to have compassion for one another and others point of view, not being able to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes: Looking at situations from a different perspective.
Isn’t it funny that we spend a huge amount of our early lives getting an education; learning to read and write, learning mathematics and the history of the country we live in, but that we never get taught how to live life itself? The simple skills on how to communicate with people, how to be a successful, happy person and how to design our own lives are left out. What a waste!
What is success? I remember doing a NLP training many years ago. When the teachers asked the class about the definition of success, I was the only one answering the question with an answer not related to money. My definition of success is about feeling good, doing what I like to do. Wealth is living with the people I love, caring about others.
In a previous post, two weeks ago, I promised to let you know how my little experiment towards The New York Attitude went, trying to see if there is another side to the New York City rudeness. I'm now back home, after a very good trip over Memorial Day weekend, and can share my experiences with you.
Have you ever wondered why time seems to speed up as we are getting older? Or why time slows down when we are bored or sitting in the dentist chair? And why time seems to expand when we are experiencing new situations in our life, like traveling to a part of the world we have never been before? Steve Taylor gives an answer to these questions in this fascination book.