Comments on: Feel insecure and build self confidence http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/ Personal Development Blog, Life Coaching & Conscious Living Thu, 10 Nov 2011 00:08:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dimple http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-2086 Dimple Tue, 24 Aug 2010 07:00:20 +0000 http://patrickschriel.com/?p=1817#comment-2086 Hi Dear Chris, I ve been living alone for 10 years my dad and mom died when i was at 18s. Since then i started to live my life as a solidier maybe, i always wanted to be strongest and wanted the best for me, cause i believed my family did so too when they were alive. moreover i have brother, 10 years younger than me -i am 29 now- . still i m living like this. I generally had some problems in my relationship with bf s, the problem was my bonding and giving everything to my bfs by makin them the center of my world. today when i have a look at it- cause i don t want it to be like this anymore, just to be able to stand where i am, in my shoes and with my qualities, fantasies, love, truths, i mean with my life, i want to stand in relations -all kind of. but i ve so much way to go still, anyway i realised the difference i know this is a hard work and also very good thing. in these days i changed my job cause the other one i did not like and want to change , and also i was waiting to change the house i live in, so i am doing what i want in my life. these are good things but i live money problems so firstfully i began to stay at my best friends home for a while, and now gonna start to look for a house for myself and brother.. anyway, i am feeling very insecure, i always felt that. i have only friends but of course verybody lives their own life. i feel my best friend is a little bit cold to me but don t know maybe she s got own problems, maybe she s bored to know my problems so many years. that s the case i try to smile but i am gettin bored too, cause i need support maybe, even i don t care sometimes. i just get bored and anxious to be critised by her, i just really got bored with this idea, sometimes when we have talked, she gave advices as a friend but maybe sometime mother like. and, i ve got fear to be critisied by her. even i want to be the perfect one to be seen that i am doing the right things. i began to behave as if i should prove i am doing the right, now i am different.. i am changing of course, and i want to for my life my own life and my own wishes but cant stand this behavior of mine, that i should show and prove it to someones..as if they won t see it, they do not have respect in me, yeah i am feeling unrespectful when i come to this feeling and, i really get my mood low.. if you have any comments i am very open. i am reading so long time..to find what to do. to behave in right manners. thank you for listening. regards &loves dimple.. Hi Dear Chris,
I ve been living alone for 10 years my dad and mom died when i was at 18s. Since then i started to live my life as a solidier maybe, i always wanted to be strongest and wanted the best for me, cause i believed my family did so too when they were alive. moreover i have brother, 10 years younger than me -i am 29 now- . still i m living like this. I generally had some problems in my relationship with bf s, the problem was my bonding and giving everything to my bfs by makin them the center of my world. today when i have a look at it- cause i don t want it to be like this anymore, just to be able to stand where i am, in my shoes and with my qualities, fantasies, love, truths, i mean with my life, i want to stand in relations -all kind of. but i ve so much way to go still, anyway i realised the difference i know this is a hard work and also very good thing.
in these days i changed my job cause the other one i did not like and want to change
, and also i was waiting to change the house i live in, so i am doing what i want in my life. these are good things but i live money problems so firstfully i began to stay at my best friends home for a while, and now gonna start to look for a house for myself and brother.. anyway, i am feeling very insecure, i always felt that. i have only friends but of course verybody lives their own life. i feel my best friend is a little bit cold to me but don t know maybe she s got own problems, maybe she s bored to know my problems so many years. that s the case i try to smile but i am gettin bored too, cause i need support maybe, even i don t care sometimes.
i just get bored and anxious to be critised by her, i just really got bored with this idea, sometimes when we have talked, she gave advices as a friend but maybe sometime mother like. and, i ve got fear to be critisied by her. even i want to be the perfect one to be seen that i am doing the right things. i began to behave as if i should prove i am doing the right, now i am different.. i am changing of course, and i want to for my life my own life and my own wishes but cant stand this behavior of mine, that i should show and prove it to someones..as if they won t see it, they do not have respect in me, yeah i am feeling unrespectful when i come to this feeling and, i really get my mood low..

if you have any comments i am very open.
i am reading so long time..to find what to do. to behave in right manners.

thank you for listening.
regards &loves
dimple..

]]> By: How to build self-esteem and love yourself | Authentic Self Coaching http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-1831 How to build self-esteem and love yourself | Authentic Self Coaching Mon, 07 Jun 2010 14:29:43 +0000 http://patrickschriel.com/?p=1817#comment-1831 [...] 7, 2010 This article is part of a series on insecurity, self-esteem and self-confidence. In feel insecure and build self confidence and use your insecurity as a guide to change I talked about (my own) insecurity and [...] [...] 7, 2010 This article is part of a series on insecurity, self-esteem and self-confidence. In feel insecure and build self confidence and use your insecurity as a guide to change I talked about (my own) insecurity and [...]

]]> By: patrick http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-1797 patrick Wed, 26 May 2010 19:15:09 +0000 http://patrickschriel.com/?p=1817#comment-1797 Thank you for sharing your story with me. I think it takes a lot of courage to talk about ones own insecurity. I can tell you that you are not alone. Most people deal with insecure feelings. I know I do sometimes. You said there are other people who need more help then you do do. But how can you be so sure of this? Reading your comment I think you have all the right in the world to be heard. Suffering from insecurity and low self esteem can feel pretty bad. Maybe I can help you with the following questions: Is feeling insecure always bad? What would happen if you start loving your insecurities instead of hating them? What Has self-esteem always been an issue for you? And can you remember a time that insecurity and self esteem wasn't an issue for you? What changed this feeling? I live in The Netherlands, and besides this e-mail the only thing that is on my power to help you is to set up a private call. If you would like this, let me know. You should not face this issue alone. My preferred suggestion would be that you setup a face-to-face meeting with someone that can help you with your insecurity and self-esteem. I suggest you get some help from a professional in your neighborhood. With the right tools, everyone can improving self-esteem. If you're not yet ready to get some help, may I then suggest some books to read? The first book that popped into my mind was "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie. Another good one is "Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem" by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning. Both books are different in approach, but they teach you to be conscious of your thoughts. Kind regards, Patrick Thank you for sharing your story with me. I think it takes a lot of courage to talk about ones own insecurity. I can tell you that you are not alone. Most people deal with insecure feelings. I know I do sometimes. You said there are other people who need more help then you do do. But how can you be so sure of this? Reading your comment I think you have all the right in the world to be heard. Suffering from insecurity and low self esteem can feel pretty bad.

Maybe I can help you with the following questions: Is feeling insecure always bad? What would happen if you start loving your insecurities instead of hating them? What Has self-esteem always been an issue for you? And can you remember a time that insecurity and self esteem wasn’t an issue for you? What changed this feeling?

I live in The Netherlands, and besides this e-mail the only thing that is on my power to help you is to set up a private call. If you would like this, let me know. You should not face this issue alone. My preferred suggestion would be that you setup a face-to-face meeting with someone that can help you with your insecurity and self-esteem. I suggest you get some help from a professional in your neighborhood. With the right tools, everyone can improving self-esteem.

If you’re not yet ready to get some help, may I then suggest some books to read? The first book that popped into my mind was “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie. Another good one is “Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem” by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning. Both books are different in approach, but they teach you to be conscious of your thoughts.

Kind regards,

Patrick

]]> By: Christopher Reddington http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-1789 Christopher Reddington Mon, 24 May 2010 16:34:30 +0000 http://patrickschriel.com/?p=1817#comment-1789 Hi my name is Chris. I m a twenty seven year old male. I have always seemed to have a few insecureities and I hate them, sometime my insecurities make me hate myself. I m finding it hard to go out and live my life the way I really want to live it for constant fear of failing. I hate to say this next part but I ve been have been dreaming about suicide. Its not like I want to dream about it, I just get really low sometimes and find i cant talk to anyone about what I m feeling or whats going through my mind or if I try to its hard for me to talk sensibly about it. It just comes out all topsy turvy. I feel like I could shut myself away and hide from everything and I don t want this to happen. I am finding it hard to consentrate on the goods thing I ve done. Even now I m thinking to myself I shouldn t be sending this there are other people who need help more than me. I am insecure, with low self isteem issues, I know this and I don t want to be this scared little kid stuck in mans body anymore. I want to become the man my mind wont let me become. thank you for listening Hi my name is Chris.

I m a twenty seven year old male.
I have always seemed to have a few insecureities and I hate them, sometime my insecurities make me hate myself. I m finding it hard to go out and live my life the way I really want to live it for constant fear of failing. I hate to say this next part but I ve been have been dreaming about suicide. Its not like I want to dream about it, I just get really low sometimes and find i cant talk to anyone about what I m feeling or whats going through my mind or if I try to its hard for me to talk sensibly about it. It just comes out all topsy turvy.
I feel like I could shut myself away and hide from everything and I don t want this to happen. I am finding it hard to consentrate on the goods thing I ve done. Even now I m thinking to myself I shouldn t be sending this there are other people who need help more than me.
I am insecure, with low self isteem issues, I know this and I don t want to be this scared little kid stuck in mans body anymore. I want to become the man my mind wont let me become.
thank you for listening

]]> By: Use your insecurity as a guide to change | Authentic Self Coaching http://patrickschriel.com/2010/05/05/feel-insecure-and-build-self-confidence/comment-page-1/#comment-1761 Use your insecurity as a guide to change | Authentic Self Coaching Sat, 15 May 2010 07:59:30 +0000 http://patrickschriel.com/?p=1817#comment-1761 [...] patrick on May 15, 2010 After writing my article, feel insecure and build self confidence, I had a discussion with a friend who is also a life coach. While we talked about our own emotions, [...] [...] patrick on May 15, 2010 After writing my article, feel insecure and build self confidence, I had a discussion with a friend who is also a life coach. While we talked about our own emotions, [...]

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