I wish me a merry Christmas and a happy New Year

The days are short and it’s cold outside in the part of the world where I live. This means that 2009 is coming to an end. Only a few days are separating us from 2010. For me this is the perfect time to look at my own personal goals; to see what I have achieved this year, to update existing goals and to set new ones.

I think I managed pretty well. It was a year of positive change. I had to let go of the old to make room for something new. I started a new path towards my own personal development and decided that I want to be a life coach to help others. I am very excited about this and this blog is part of that pursuit. Most articles in this blog are meant to make you more conscious of who you really are, to awaken your authentic self.

Traditionally when people send out Christmas and New Year wishes they all wish the best for someone else. I decided to do things a bit different this year. I will only make a wish for myself:

I wish me a merry Christmas and a happy new year. I wish that I will continue to be happy and successful. I wish to be a little wiser and more loving, more compassionate towards others.

Do you think this is selfish? I think it’s not. Here’s why: Only when I am happy can I make others happy. I can only do good to others if I am good to myself first.

It is relative easy to wish others well or to say you love someone else. But how many people can honestly look in the mirror and say they love themselves? Can you? Many people lack the self-confidence for this. They think they don’t deserve to be loved. Thinking they are lacking an essential quality for this. Thinking they are too mean or too fat, too slim, too tall or too short; maybe too dumb or even too smart. Whatever it is they don’t accept themselves for what they truly are.

Self-acceptance is the first step towards self-confidence. Do you think the perfect human being exists? Do you think you can be, or have to be, perfect for the full 100 percent? Wake up! This will never happen. No one is perfect or will ever be; perfection is an illusion. I know that you are a unique human being and deserve to be loved like all of us. What is better than to accept and love yourself for what you are? Think about this: You can only love others if you can love yourself first.

Life wouldn’t be fun if we were perfect all the time. The challenge is to keep improving and to enjoy the ride along the way. Accept the fact that you don’t need to perfect to feel happy. Happiness is a way of life, something you can be right now. Happiness is not a goal to achieve in the future.

I love myself. I wish me a merry Christmas and a happy new year! I hope you too can make the same wish for yourself.